Boundaries That Helped Me Bloom

Growth doesn’t always look like doing more. Sometimes, it looks like removing yourself completely and unapologetically from what doesn’t feel right. One of the most sacred boundaries I’ve ever set is this: if I sense bad energy, I leave. Whether it’s a room, a conversation, a situation, or even a mindset if it feels off, I protect my peace and go. I don’t explain. I don’t second-guess. I just go. 

I’ve learned that peace is a place I must choose, and choosing it often means saying “no” to being accessible. I love being unavailable. I love being a mystery. I don’t want to be everywhere, with everyone, all the time. I used to feel guilty about that, like I needed to justify why I preferred the comfort of home over the chaos of crowds. But now? I honor it. My solitude is sacred. 

Another boundary I hold close is protecting my energy from being transferred, twisted, or drained by others. I don’t allow people to pour their chaos into me. I don’t carry what isn’t mine. I’ve done enough of that in the past, and all it did was weigh me down. 

These boundaries didn’t just protect me they helped me bloom. They created space for softness. They reminded me that stillness is a form of strength. They helped me become the woman I am today: calm, grounded, and fiercely committed to her peace. 

If you’ve been struggling to protect your energy, let this be your reminder you don’t owe access to anyone who doesn’t honor your presence. You can protect your softness. You can bloom in quiet places. 

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." 
Maya Angelou